Watched a movie the other night that I have seen at least 7 or 8 times. Of all the lines in the movie that could captivate me, it was this one that I want to write about: “Ok mom, I’m ready to start communicating”. Most of the movie is over before the boy says this to his mother, but it is definitely a turning point in the movie.
The boy decides that communicating with his mother will be for his own well-being. Can you imagine if your kids would understand that before they move out of the house? I don’t know that I ever understood what it was like to really communicate with my mother until I had children of my own. You see, when you get to a point where you understand how your parents were raising you and how much they love you, you want to communicate. I’m not saying that I never talked to my parents about life and its struggles, but I don’t know that I understood why it was so important until later in life.
I remember a late night conversation I had with my parents about trust. I had done something that I regretted and I had to go to them to talk about it. Boy was it hard to see that disappointment in my parents eyes. We talked through it and the conversation ended like this: “Well son, you are going to have to regain our trust after this.” Wow, that hurt! But, I learned a lot about talking to my parents and how important that was that night.
So my question to you parents is this…..Do you foster an environment that makes it easy for your kids to talk (communicate) with you? Do you make yourself available? Do you ask about their dates (and we all know they shouldn’t date until they are 25)? Do you talk about who their friends are and how their friends act…yeah that was another blog?
Back to the movie…once the boy told his mother he was ready to start communicating, he was able to move on with some of the issues in his life that were troubling him. Maybe that is your child. Maybe they are experiencing something so radical or so scary that they need your ear….listen….they aren’t always looking for answers….sometimes they just want you to listen….that could be the start of a great line of communication. You will never regret communicating with your kids….some day (God forbid) you may not be able to.
So what was the problem that the boy in the movie was having? He sees dead people…..you know the movie?
Have a great week!
Thanks for sharing. It does take being a parent many times. Having things like this to read and ponder help a lot.
God’s 6th sense is definetly something Christians ignore. My daughter just put a block on my lap and quietly walked away. She was trying to communicate, ‘Mommy play with me’, sweetly and passively. I ignored her, sure to get a block thrown at me if I don’t respond to her, or leave her heart crushed 1 more time without a response from me. Not that I have to stop each time, but simply to recognize her need, want, or desire to spend time with me. It’s a short breath we get as parents isn’t it? I’m learning on both ends with a 2 year old and 12 year old. I need to sit with Caleb today and ask some hard questions and respond simply with I love you and prayer of love and wisdom, not advice or correction. He gets the latter to so much without the other, the rest is lost. Thank you for your post. God’s 6th sense of His Holy Spirit is evident all around us. I am in tears thinking about how much God has blessed your family. You are a great husband and father to your kids, they love you so much and it’s obvious when we’re there. Linda is a source of strength and healing to so many people in her job but also in with the family. Ya’ll are great parents and it’s a blessing to read the blogs and see what’s new! I’m super excited about New Spring in Columbia. I’ve shown so many of the services to friends and am telling many about http://www.newspring.cc Awesome!
Tim and I just took a look at John’s new hair cut….we LIKE it…he looks so handsome…guess Hunter will see it tonight in person..!!
Hey, I would have invited y ou to watch the Clemson game with some real live lex. county rednecks but don’t know how to get in touch with you other than this. hope you and linda overcame dress up day at Lex. hs with madonna and sponge bob … also, if linda is interested, my wife, Traci leads the moms in touch group on Friday AMS for lex. hs … see you sat. Weyland
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